Some INFJ Thoughts on ENTPs – Like An Anchor
Jul 6, Of course, type compatibility in relationships is much more complicated than that, (note: there are female ENTPs, just as there are male INFJs. Apr 6, Hello, as a fellow ENTP I'm writing this to provide a critique of the INFJ. I've been in two relationships with INFJs: the first, for two years; the. Jan 16, I can only speak from my personal experience (as the ENTP - married to an INFJ for 12 years). In purely MBTI speak: For an ENTP the major functions are.
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Struggles However, they may lack interest in everyday living, hence if they are a married couple, household duties may tend to be neglected. Even if they attempt to take care of household, they may still miss important details in its maintenance. The partner that has to be constantly responsible for the everyday maintenance may feel resentment or unfulfilled.
A good balance can be achieved with proper delegation of duties or with the hiring of a domestic helper. Thinking-Feeling Joys Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self.
Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense. The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions.
Struggles Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler. Thinkers may not understand the Feeler's desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict. Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler's behavior and deem them complicated.
Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don't show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship. Judging-Perceiving Joys Judgers enjoy making decisions for the relationship while Perceivers are happy just to let Judgers do so. Perceivers are happy to go with the flow according to the Judger's opinions, and they are generally okay with most casual decisions.
Because of their organized and scheduled nature, Judgers bring a stability and order to the otherwise messy and spontaneous lives of Perceivers - something that the Perceivers greatly appreciate.
Perceivers, on the other hand, help Judgers to lighten up and see the fun side of life, bidding them to be less serious and uptight about everything - something that the Judgers know they need a reminder of. Struggles However, Judgers find Perceivers to be too passive and casual with their indecisiveness - Sometimes this gets on the nerves of Judgers.
Judgers find that Perceivers care little about household organization, something which they value highly. Perceivers are likely to mess up the house because they don't like to keep things neat and orderly at least in the Judger's eyes - this of course drives Judgers crazy. Judgers may also find the Perceiver's lack of planning and scheduling to be irritating; they may try to organize the Perceiver's life as a result - this of course, is a mistake and something that Perceivers do not always appreciate.
And this is exactly where many Thinkers get tripped up. Having assimilated cultural ideals promulgated by Fi romantics, they commonly judge a partner by the degree to which she inspires feelings of love or infatuation. This is not to say that Thinkers should never pair with Feelers, but only that their relationships are best built on something more substantive than the primal attraction of opposites.
This function contributes an enjoyment of being around people. However, in light of our above discussion, ENTPs authentically need people and relationships more for the sake of Ne dialogue than for Fe reciprocation of feelings.
As the functional opposite of Ne, Si urges them to forego the new Ne in favor of the tried and true Si. It confers a concern for tradition, as well as for the development of behavioral routines and habits. Such relationships can provide ENTPs with what appears to be a fast track to wholeness. Unfortunately, it is rarely long before such pairings begin to encounter difficulties, as they realize how little they have in common and how different they really are.
This is not to say that ENTPs could never make it work with SJs, but only that these relationships are predictably more challenging because of the opposing nature of the involved personality functions.
This is due, at least in part, to the fact that SPs are extremely common, especially in the U. ESPs, who are also Perceiving dominants, can resemble ENTPs in their tendency to be fun-loving and novelty-seeking this similarity is evidenced, for instance, in the conflation of Se and Ne in the Enneagram type 7. These types may share interests in things like games and movies, as well as various physical activities.
ENTPs, by contrast, are relatively unconcerned with material novelties and niceties, placing higher priority on creative and ideational treasures. Those pairing another NP type e. With that said, ENP-ENP couples may run into difficulties related to excessive similarity or a deficiency of complementarity.
They may find, for instance, that both partners prefer to be talking most of the time, making conversations more competitive or frustrating than nourishing. Many NPs especially those not raised in affluence display relatively meager standards of living.
Using Si rather than Se, they tend to be minimalists with respect to the material world this seems particularly true of INPs. Hence, finances may be less of a contentious issue in NP-NP pairings. Since INJs are also dominant Perceivers i. This could inspire fierce resistance from the highly independent ENTP, even if displayed in passive-aggressive ways. They also have no functions in common and may display significantly different interests and approaches to life.
This is not to say that such a pairing could never work or even work wellbut both partners would need to be quite individuated and secure in themselves.