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By Jenina, March 10, at pm The study pointed out that the thee year mark is the time when relationship stress levels peak and points to a new trend. It's incredibly common for couples to experience a decline in the quality of their relationship, or reach a critical sink or swim, “where do we go from here?” turning . Recent research has shown that couples are reporting relationship boredom at approximately the three-year mark. That's not shocking.
I recall telling a good friend of mine that if my ex and I made it through to our relationship would be stronger than ever. If not, we would breakup.
In Oct we broke it off and my prophecy made me look like I was a modern day Nostradamus. Since I was mentally prepared to move forward, and having cried enough for the last several months of an unstable relationship, I didn't have tears left for when the band-aid was ripped off of my skin.
Our breakup was a great decision. Even though she and I were similar people in many ways, our values never aligned. We are made of the same composition, but we thrive in different solar systems. I'm fairly certain I know what I want, but she was still developing her values.
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At the very least she knew she didn't want the same things as me, and close to the end I could see that she wasn't the "one" for me. I lost a best friend.
She knew a lot of things about me, even my demented thoughts that aren't suitable for the ears of society. I also knew a lot of things about her, even her demented thoughts that aren't suitable for the ears of society.Stages of a Break up - How To Get Over a Breakup
We had a complex relationship, much more so than I have ever experienced or witnessed. I would write about the intricacies, but I still haven't processed it all and, in order to respect my ex's privacy, I will save my thoughts for the future when it'll be more appropriate to share it in a constructive way adult.
Regardless, we learned a lot from each other and I believe we needed each other for our growth. I personally learned how to appreciate family, dress fashionably, and communicate effectively through her.
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The way we split up showed that we respected and cared for each other. We were amicable and we weren't trying to hurt one another due to our own insecurities. She was nice enough to keep my furniture and clothes at her place while I searched for an apartment, instead of throwing my stuff out onto the street.
The truth is, no relationship is perfect.
No partner is perfect. We all have our own little idiosyncrasies that have the potential to irk our other halves.
There are simply things we just cannot change about ourselves, or others. We simply need to implement and be mindful of some important rituals and practices — as a pair — to ensure our relationship grows from strength to strength. As a couple, you could consider implementing some of the four following to help avoid experiencing the three-year-itch: First, love yourself We get so caught up in trying to make others happy, or relying on them for happiness, that we forget about the one person we need to love first — ourselves.
Unless you love yourself, you cannot love someone else, fully. Be kind to yourself. Create time to yourself to connect to the essence of who you are as an individual and your own ever-changing wants, needs, and desires. Implement practices and rituals that make you feel good and confident in your body and who you are.
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By maintaining your own sense of self and a life of your own throughout your relationship with your partner, you retain your individuality. The number of compliments also paralleled the frequency of sexual engagement between couples. The problem is most people think that love is enough in a relationship and everything else will just follow.
However, staying in love involves work and engagement with your partner.
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A recent article in Time Magazine listed the top 10 passion killers for couples: Some couples often dedicate some "me time" during the week where they engage in activities that they enjoy doing without their partner.
Making sure that work isn't taking over your life is also important because self-care is usually the first to go when that happens.
So there is some truth to the old saying of unless you love yourself you can't love someone else fully.